Thursday, September 19, 2013

Freeze the Moment in Time

When I found out I was expecting my little one, I was working and in my last semester at Rutgers, completing my Masters in Social Work.  All the while, I was preparing to update my professional profile and begin the job hunt for a life long career.  The news of our baby didn’t deter me from looking.  In fact, I had interviewed in my last month of pregnancy (without any real plan to put on the table).  My husband was put on a new project where he’d be working from home and he encouraged me to go look for work because he thought he could watch the little one and work from home simultaneously.  We still laugh at this today.  One, because we know with most demanding work-from-home jobs, this is simply not an option.  And two, because we somehow assumed that me + my husband = an easy baby (according to what our moms had to say about us as babies).

The reason for this post today is not really about choosing (for now) to be a stay at home mom, even though it is one of the best decisions I have ever made.  Rather, I want to use this time to tell you to enjoy every moment, because it won’t come back.  Quite frankly, time is not on our side.  Our babies are growing so fast, that it’s hard to keep up!  We can literally wake up and notice that our baby looks taller than the night before.  Fatima is now 9 months old and I have to say, she’s cuter than ever before.  I keep telling my husband that I think this is it.  Babies continue to do cute things, but this is her peak.  She’s chubby, she does the cutest little things, AND she can’t crawl yet—which means we can grab her and cuddle and she can’t get away!  Soon she’ll be mobile, burning off the chub, and out of reach.  In fact, as I’m writing this, she’s getting up on her knees for the first time!… sighhh

I remember once hearing (something along the lines of) that from the moment our children come into this world, they work their way to independence.  From the time they take their very first step, to the day you send them off to their first day of school, and hug them goodbye as they leave your home to begin their own lives.  Each moment, so bittersweet.  And here I am, feeling anxious that she’s ready to crawl away!

So whether you are able to be home with your child(ren), or you’re working, try to take time out to enjoy your baby as much as you can.  Some of the hurdles of early parenthood can be very frustrating, especially when you have to get other things done.  Do what you can to fix the situation, but don’t spend too much time dwelling over it.  Some things are simply not ‘fixable,’ and when the time is right, everything will fall into place.  I know because my baby doesn’t like to sleep—whether its naps or bedtime.  She wakes up countless times throughout the night.  I’ve tried everything, but have learned to adjust to this.  So my message is this—use this time to stress less and enjoy more.  Sure it's tough, but your baby is thirstier for your attention than anything else.  Nothing makes her happier than to be in your company.  Undeniably, a time will come when you’ll be needy for your child to give you just a little of his or her time. 

If I could, I would freeze time right where it is, and live in it forever.


  1. great blog soofia! i know how you feel.. i was torn about going back to work and also decided to be a stay at home mom for now :) it can be overwhelming and frustrating at times as i'm sure you know but thanks for the reminder to try and freeze the moments!

    1. thanks artina! i'm sure you won't regret your decision and hopefully everything works out for the best iA :)